## Metadata - Author: [[Margie Sarsfield]] - Full Title:: The Cage - Category:: #🗞️Articles - URL:: https://psyche.co/turning-points/my-queer-breakup-helped-me-leave-the-cage-that-held-my-mind?utm_source=rss-feed - Read date:: [[2026-02-10]] ## Highlights > ‘I could’ve spent these years with anyone, doing anything,’ I said instead. My voice was even as if I was just stating facts – because I was. ‘I’m glad I spent them with you. Thank you.’ ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01kh30xx527zpykrw1n86m42pp)) > But I should’ve trusted the generations of queer breakups before mine – being best friends with your ex is a very gay thing to do. They aren’t my partner anymore, but they’re still my family. We run errands together, see each other’s parents, talk about our new relationships. I kept the memory jar. We got new matching tattoos after the breakup. We’d spent our relationship healing each other; somehow, the breakup healed what we hadn’t reached. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01kh3119b77j7z1p6v28xwfbyx))