## New highlights added [[2026-05-15]] > A relationship is healthy if it fits the personalities and needs of the people involved (and the resonance between them). ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01krp240wf3gxtcv0qks16csr4)) > The useful thing about defining good design as a *form-context fit* is that it tells you where you will find the form. The form is in the context. > • To find a good relationship, you do not start by saying, “I want a relationship that looks like this”—that would be starting in the wrong end, by defining form. Instead you say, “I’m just going to pay attention to what happens when I hang out with various people and iterate toward something that feels alive”—you start from the context. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01krp2776r44b6qe13a3jd3ypf))